Month: July 2012
A FATHER’S INTROSPECT
He placed his little hand in mine
Looked up at me so tall;
I knew that I must ‘measure up’…
Or we’d both surely fall!
Before he even walked, I thought,
“What shall this child be?”
It took no time to realize…
That it depends on God and me.
God, we know, will do His part;
And I must do mine too.
It won’t be easy but with His help,
I can follow through.
I must be careful how I walk
Throughout my life on earth;
I want to give him back to God…
As pure…as at his birth.
©Edna L. Ingram, 09/13/2008
“A disciple is not above his teacher, but everyone who is perfectly trained
will be like his teacher.” -Jesus, in Luke 6:40
When our daughter was in elementary school, a lot of the little girls were bringing their dolls to school and playing with them during recess. Their teacher told them they were too big to play with dolls and to not bring them to school any more. We didn’t make an issue of it, but my daughter and I and some of the other parents and children laughed about her ideas. I wondered though, why they were too big to play dolls and not too big to play secretary, teacher or nurses.
This was back in the middle 60’s but it shows that prejudice was rampant even then against a career as a mother and homemaker. Parents however, do not have to allow this intervention by the “Village” to interfere with the rearing of their children. We handled it in a way that made it of no consequence.
I wonder though how much a part it plays in our nation’s children in growing up too fast, and not getting to live their childhood. Parent who let their little first graders wear heels and makeup and revealing clothing and dress like many teens do, and like teens shouldn’t…are just simply asking for trouble. When they get to be teenagers and even beyond, what is left for them to experience that isn’t already ‘old hat’….it makes me shiver to think!
Too many little girls are pushed into adult situations before they are ready for the responsibility. Some of them who still should be ‘playing’ with dolls have the responsibility of a real one before they are hardly aware of it.
Another thing that happened not long after those years, is the kindergarten building was used to make room for the head start group and the kindergarten children moved to the elementary building and the sixth graders were moved up to the highschool building. Damaging? Maybe not, but it seems to me that peer pressure would be even more prevalent and kids are being pushed into the grownup world all too soon and this is representative of a nation that does not nurture its young. We are reaping the results of that in more ways than we can count. I believe a nation can be judged accurately by the way it nurtures its young and respects its old.
Just recently a school in our state held a talent show to raise money for a project. The parents of some of the students were directing the affair and the ages of those participating were from head start through high school. Some of the acts were songs that the young children were pantomining. The songs were of the sort that I would not want my children to listen to even when they were in their teens. Those little children probably did not even know what the lyrics meant, but I wondered about the parents who allowed it. There are so many decent songs they could have used. Some parents, I am convinced, either do not care…or they are just un-enlightened about how to influence their little ones for good.
In the early 1900’s when families began to move away from farms into the urban areas, the boys’ and girls’ clubs were organized to give the young ones something to do to occupy their time. In some aspects this may have been a good thing, since the parents were busy with jobs that did not include the children any more. However in many cases, they simply replaced family time, thus they were not involved in ‘family life’ as much, as they were in the rural residences. The ‘village’ can be harmful as well as helpful if the parents permit it.
Many people say they do not know how to fix it, but it has been suggested by some conscientious statesmen in our nation’s capitol that our nation be re-educated concerning morals and parental responsibility instead of leaving everything to the ‘village’ or to the government agencies regarding our family and its personal responsibility. This sounds good to me and I feel it is the only way we can rear our children in this great nation to nurture its young and respect its old.
©Edna L. Ingram
IT TAKES A WHAT???
The concept of “‘IT TAKES A VILLAGE’ TO RAISE A CHILD,” may have merit if you are talking about ‘The Butcher, The Baker and The Candlestick Maker’ being good moral examples in honesty and integrity, as they deal with our children and serve our communities. Everyone, young or old needs good examples set before them each day of their lives.
If a child though, does not have these examples in others outside the circle of his family…parents can still train them up right, to be good upstanding moral citizens. So…in essence, it does not take a village…it takes good parents!
Noah’s sons in the book of Genesis in the Bible did not have one good example outside of their immediate family, yet evidently they were trained up by Noah and his wife to be righteous and to be helpers in whatever their father had need of them.
Governments and communities are not commissioned by God to be in the child-rearing business. God places this responsibility squarely on the shoulders of the parents. In Psalm 68:6, we read that “God sets the solitaire in families.” The communal concept of child-rearing has no place in God’s plans for our families.
When a child in a community goes astray, people do not blame the community or the school or the United States Government. Sometimes they do not even blame the parents, but it is always a reflection on the parents, not the community. Parents are responsible for the way their children turn out.
Can you imagine the hilarity of blaming the government? Just who in the government would take responsibility? Can you pin one person down or any two people, and say, “You are to blame”? What about a community or village? Who would have to bear the responsibility? The mayor? Judge? Trash Collector? Would anyone in “The Village” take the blame? If no one is responsible, no one has to care very much! The old adage, ‘Everybody’s business is nobody’s business’ would certainly hold true in the area of child-rearing.
©Edna L. Ingram …..To be continued…..
A few years ago, Bobby and I decided to build a sun room over our patio and part of the deck area. This picture shows it mostly finished. We did a fairly good job and saved about $4,000.00 in the process. We like it really well except there are certainly a lot of windows to wash.
Yesterday I got the step-ladder, Glass Plus, rags and newspapers and went to work cleaning them up…again! It is quite a chore and Bobby helped. When we got through we thought they looked pretty good. The sun room is on the west side….(this is important to this story!)
Well…just a few minutes ago I looked out the kitchen window! I called Bobby over there and we had a good laugh! Those windows look awful! It looks like you can see every swipe of the cloth and newspaper that we took…we had just smeared it around. How can they look so good and then the next evening look so very bad?
The sunlight shining on them from the west means that Bobby and I will be doing our job over.
This is the way God’s children are. We think we are looking good and we think we are so righteous…and then we open up the Book and the Son-Light (the Word) shines on us and we look worse than we thought…but we don’t think that is funny…repentance is in order. But if we walk in the light, the blood of Christ continuously cleans us from our sins. That is good to know. But there are some who walk away from Him and never return and this is so tragic…so sad!
“But if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin.” –1 John 1:7